Saturday, December 31, 2005

Happy New Year!

If one more person asks me what I am doing for New Years, I may shoot them. I am not doing anything. Nothing. Sleeping, watching a DVD, anything but going out to stand around in the cold, spend lots of money and realise that it's just another night. Yes, it's the end of the year but the Gregorian calender was only invented by man and the end of the year could have been any other time that they chose it to be. Space-time paradoxes and such like. And unless you're a real life physicist who has can prove me wrong by quoting some big man in the history of mankind, that's my explanation and I'm sticking to it.

So yes, New Year. Whoop dee doo. I think it's overrated bullshit. But that's just me. Feel free to go out and enjoy and have a good time ending the year.

And if you're sad like me and have not much else to do, feel free to go on the links that I've kept myself entertained in the past few days...

Take a quick quiz to see how well you know me..Thanks to Annie who started it up.
Take my Quiz on QuizYourFriends.com!

So, learn something new, 100 things we didn't know this time last year.

More useless information, The meaning of tingo and other words.

The best place to discuss meaningless things, Last Word thanks to New Scientist.

Very important when you live in a country that can't handle 2 inches of snow, the BBC weather website, with up-to-date, state of the art information and such like.

And somehow, strangely fascinated by this book trying to understand the place where I live, it's like moths being drawn to the light even though they know it's bad for them, Watching the English.

Although I actually bought this book, as a joke, naturally.

I am so sad, I spend way too much time on the Internet. I have a photo on hotornot, as a joke but my rating has gone way down. Perhaps that's a good thing. But that's up to you to decide.


I'm done here. Surely I should find some motivation to get up and go to work tomorrow?

Oh crap, who needs this?

Wednesday, December 28, 2005

bad dreams

I've been having a recurring nightmare lately, it's scary. Oddly, I am starting to remember some parts of it. Those who know me will realise that this is odd. I never believe in my dreams and can never remember them.

The time of the year is to be blamed for the lapses. This is often when people reflect on what they've done the past 12 months and look forward to what they hope to achieve in the next 12 months. It's strange how people measure their lives, what is often an achievement for you doesn't mean anything to anyone else. In a way, this is what makes each of unique. However, when comparing what you've done in your life with someone else, sometimes you feel a little short changed and wish you could step into their shoes, even for the briefest moment.

I've had a pretty momentous 12 months. I've changed a lot in the space of one year. Maybe not as much as some of my friends would like to think but there's a lot that you don't see!

Remember the question you were asked once, where do you see yourself in five years time? And from that, you planned what your life would be like, to as much detail as possible so that what you imagined would become reality. You always went with the popular choices, the stable jobs, the ones that would keep you in good health and the one without any risks. It's strange now that I think of what I would have said five years ago, it's so different compared to what and how I am living my life now.

Earlier in the year, I broke up with my fiancee. It was the hardest decision I've ever had to do in my whole life. Sometimes, I wake up wondering which day of my life I will spend regretting ever doing that. And there are some days which I wake up in sheer fear that he was the love of my life and the ship has sailed for me. Other days I wake up hopeful that it was the right thing for me to do in my life now. Some days I just wake up, with no thoughts, feeling happy to take on the world.

In October, I found out to my surprise that I was starting the third year of my PhD. It did creep up on me, maybe because I had spent a lot of time running the college bar! The realisation of that hit me like a ton of bricks, spurring me to work harder. Also the fact that I would be able to go to conferences and network with others (or have free holidays!) and would need something substantial to present.

Friends have kept me sane throughout the year. I've made friends from more countries in the past year than ever before and some of them have returned, increasing the number of places around the world that I can travel to and crash with. I am going to especially thank some people who have had to listen to my neuroses and deal with it. Inevitably, I am going to miss out some of you but I figure you already know in your heart how special you are to me. My best friend, Nom, who deserves special mention for having the heart to tell me things I don't want to hear. The same goes to Kath as well, you've been great this year. And Jean-Marie, I've only known you for a year but it feels like much more than that, don't leave! Mary, who takes me into her home and lets me hijack a family Christmas. She also listens to my doubts about my faith and belief in God and keeps me on the straight and narrow, most of the time. You can't win them all. Frischman, you know how great you are!! Sarah & Kathryn, you come as a pair because I met you both as a pair, especially since my fondest memories is of our crazy girly moments! Evelyn, Eveline and Valerie, I've known you three since college. We don't live in the same places anymore and in fact we don't even see each other that much but everytime we catch up we can speak for hours without even thinking about it. Good friends, which come up in the unexpected places include Elona, Phil L, Gav, the indispensable Mark K, the one who makes me laugh so much Ketan and others!

So, what do I want to achieve next year aside from the usual spiel? I should pretend to do some of this exercise malarky, I've been told it's good for you. I should stop smoking, but then again, I don't smoke very much at all. But that's another story for another day.

But I think my new year's resolution is probably to enjoy what I've got and not to worry too much about the future. Life is much more rewarding that way.


Took me a long time to say that huh?

Thursday, December 22, 2005

The great piss up

So yesterday was the last day of work for the University. It's also the tradition for GU to have the biggest piss up of the year. Celebrate the end of the year in style, right?

Gav organised the thing, we kicked off at the Kings Arms at 1230, with a few people from the unit. People came and left throughout the day, including me. I went to meet Sarah on her last working day in Oxford, she's got lots of exciting new jobs for next year! There was a short break in the early evening for half-drunk people to go back to labs and then we went back to the Kings Arms.

Numbers dwindled but we made it to Bar Risa. Finally, me and Gav danced the night away at The Bridge. Shock, horror, shock, he preferred the downstairs urban music room as compared to the house/cheese upstairs. I had the most fab time dancing and grooving with one of the most toned boys in the room. Had the most amusing text conversation (wonders of modern technology) where I got asked to be a friend with benefit/fuck- bunny. Would have been fine if he was more attractive than he was. LOL.

Gav then walked me home and I fed him pasta. Sent him on his way once he was fed. Shame he's such a trainspotter, he was very excited to see a Class 66 Freightliner train go by.

Another night of my life whiled away not going very much but damn it was fun,since I had intention of staying out the whole night!

-aL-

Also getting excited, it's almost Christmas. I've stopped being bah-humbug-ing the whole season as the presents from Amazon finally arrived. 3 more days to the big day.

Let's celebrate the birth of the big man in style.

Tuesday, December 20, 2005

Another magical night

So it's been like a whole week since I posted something, which is unusual to say the least but then again, work got in the way last week. Bex came to visit me on Friday, it was so nice to see her again after like almost two years! Lots of exciting things happening in her life, and she's doing well. We talked about the summer we spent in America a lot and it's so long ago now. There's been more travelling since then but we're still friends, how cool is that. We went to Living Room, this hot swanky rah-rah bar in Oxford (just for a laugh, we're really not like that) then spent Saturday hanging out.

Pier surprised everyone by showing up in Oxford in Sat so we went out for a few drinks, he's trying to settle in Berlin, learning German and working for a new company. Guess the shock of real life after so many years at a university type environment doesn't go down to well. I wonder what it'll be like for me.

Sunday was blah, I made my Christmas cards for the year, unable to put it off anymore. Then Chad came up with a plan to have Christmas dinner for tonight, we had a wonderful night. Chad, Harith, Phil, Allyn and me. So much food, goose, chicken, all the attending vegetables and then dessert to top it all of. Let's not forget the mince pies as well! Yum yum.

Pictures from tonight. There are a few random ones as the boys got hold of the camera and decided it would be fun to piss about. It's great when you have a digital camera.

Everyone at dinner tonight
Chad and a bird (well, one of them)
Hungry man.. eat meat
Harith and Phil, best buddies (wow, Harith you look good in pics)
Our special guest for the night, Delilah (aw..isn't she cute)
Me and Chad in a nice picture (strange, one of the few ones where I'm NOT trying to kill you for some stupid comment that you make, love ya babes!, in a totally platonic way, of course)
Allyn and Alice (where Annie in this picture? Come back, we miss you)

And on a completely random note, please listen and buy the jcb song by Nizlopi because I think they are quite cool. You may have to remind me that I ever liked this song in the first place, but, this is right here, right now.

Tuesday, December 13, 2005

Amazon's great free legal music downloads

Now, you all know my fascination with Amazon from my great amazing Christmas wish list but I have just spent the past 3 hours downloading legal music for free from Amazon.

YAY!

It's the best promotion in the world. You let people download one or two songs from an album and if they like the artist enough they'll buy the album. Well, I would. What an inventive way of asking me to try obscure and unknown artists!

Go forth and download, baby.

Sunday, December 11, 2005

A warped sense of humor


(Picture of Ed Southern, the man of Southern blotting fame) Shrine to the gods of molecular biology in general,the god of blotting in particular. Please do not disturb. Devotional offerings welcome






Oh this cracks me up so much and yet, I know it shouldn't. Insider jokes are bad.

-aL-

My Christmas list

I love Christmas. Not only do we get to celebrate the birth of Christ (who is obviously top man, the rock of my life kind of guy) there is an unabashed show of consumerism.

So, to join in the festivities of the season, here is my Christmas list. Not that I'll get anything of it but hey, a girl can hope for the best, no?

Top of the list is an Ipod. Mmm..mama! Black, 60GB for all my personal music needs and I can back stuff up on it as well. See, practical and useful. And so good-looking..

Followed closely by the Elgato Eye TV. Entertainment on tap. That's what life is all about right?

And my Mac needs includes the ever so beautiful, so sexy Harman Kardon Soundsticks

That would make my digital life complete. For the moment.

Other random things that would make me happy include but of course would never, ever be limited to the following items, in no particular order.

CSI Season 5 Although it's not released in the UK just yet. Hurry up!!
Rob Thomas' album Something to Be I know, I am such a sucker but I love Matchbox 20 and I'm just keeping up my collection.
Nelly's album Sweat/Suit There are some seriously sexy grooving tunes on here.
Kanye West's Late Registration Some more grooving and loving.
Lynne Truss-Talk to the Hand She does it again. Although moving on from punctuation.
CSI Miami Do you get the idea that I like CSI, just a tiny little bit? Not that it's an obsession or anything like that.
Espresso machine Just to complete the set of caffeine producing things that I own.
Jamie Oliver's Flavor Shaker So tacky yet I want to own one. Maybe not?
Panasonic Breadmaker I accidentally threw away the kneading arm of my breadmaker and since this is a complete fantasy in my mind, this would be a nice replacement for my crappy old machine.
The Gimp Oh, this is on here solely for the sake of asking someone to buy me a gimp. ROFL. *to those not in the know, roll on the floor laughing* And it's another accessory for my Powerbook. Because I always need another one.
La Creuset Shop Anything cast iron from here. You know I'm not fussy but a nice casserole pot for these cold winter evenings?
Pressure cooker Starting to feel like a wedding list instead of a wish list yet? Maybe I should add something more student like and less adult.

Insert random anecdote. Was having a chat with a friend the other day and the one thing that pissed us off was that when we fill in forms we no longer check the box that says "18-24", we've moved on to the next one "25-34". How the hell did that happen to us? Getting old!

Wine by the case Or the truck load. Whichever you prefer to splurge on me.

I'm done for now, only because I can't be bothered to think of what else I want. I will invariably add some over-priced,under-used items that I want and therefore think I need.

Life is so tough.

-aL-

Saturday, December 10, 2005

12 hour days

Been a bit mental this week. Panic hit top note last wekeend when I looked at the total collective sum of my two and a bit years of work in Oxford and realised, "How the hell am I going to get PhD out of this?"

The force of that raw fear instilled some work ethic in me. So the past week, I've actually got my head out of the sand, stopped having a life and worked my ass off.

Hopefully I won't have to stay here much longer than I planned.

I think maybe it's time to get the hell out of this country. I miss coffee shops, mamak stalls and cheap takeaway food. I miss the food so much, beef noodles, chicken rice, laksa, mee, roast duck, roast pork, nasi lemak, tosai, roti canai, tomato kueh tiaw, and more. I miss my friends, my crazy "kaki's" in KL, I miss my friends from home. I miss hanging out with them, I've missed so much of their lives. The number of weddings that I've been invited to and have had to miss out because I live on this little rock of an island is making me too sad.

Maybe it's just the fact that I've been listening to the Rent soundtrack too much.

"525,600 minutes, 525,000 moments so dear.
525,600 minutes - how do you measure, measure a year?
In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights, in cups of coffee. In inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife.
In 525,600 minutes - how do you measure a year in the life?"

Monday, December 05, 2005

Rent the movie

I clicked on a link this morning and got excited. No, I'm not often like that. I do have a life. But I found out that Rent was already released in the states.

I absolutely love this show. It started life as a Broadway musical. I fell in love with the show when I picked up a cheap CD on sale,oh, about 5 years ago at least and now it's in a movie. Oh yes. This was the only Broadway show I watched when I was in New York. It was really surreal for me then because I had just travelled across the country and got back to New York. I popped in to get tickets with another girl I met in the youth hostel and bumped into a couple of girls that I had spent the summer working with. If you don't get this story, you need to read the synopsis for the film, or watch the musical!

Unfortunately for me, the movie isn't released in the UK until April 7. *boo hoo hoo*
Anyone wants to pay for me to go to the States *just* to watch a film?


I didn't think so!

Sunday, December 04, 2005

My first Christmas dinner..

of the year. Thanks to T&J! I made the turkey.mmm..



Insomnia

"The worst thing in the world is to try to sleep and not to." F. Scott Fitzgerald

Have not been sleeping properly the past few nights. Man, I am tired.

Went out last night with K, AM, AW and MAK (who got back especially for the evening! We started off at the The Duke with a few pitchers of cocktails. Mmm... Then we moved on to Jamal's for dinner. Tried to get into the new hip spot, Living Room but got turned away because one of the boys was too casual. So we ended up at The Bridge instead, that makes 2 Saturday nights in a row for me. It was fun, M left in July and we haven't been out since then. The boys, a different set yesterday, was plenty of fun.

I get to make a turkey today! YAY! We are having an early Christmas dinner because C is leaving for Berlin in a few days time.

As I am now not sleeping, I've spent the past few days organising my iTunes library, I am finally adding all my CDs so that I have a 'complete' collection of my music. Not hit the my so-called magical 3000 tunes barrier yet. But I have discovered that a few of my CDs are missing. I hope they are somewhere among my things, as I am not the neatest person in the world..

And now a whole selection of random pictures,




JM's birthday dinner. That was a good night of food and wine. Another dinner soon as Akua is having her birthday soon! How exciting.





Lab dinner followed by night out. Few notables were missing but we managed to get pretty much everyone.





Ah...last night.

Did I mention how damn tired I am and wish I could sleep?

Thursday, December 01, 2005

I'm never ever drinking again ever...

until Saturday at least.

Went out with the lab last night. We had nice formal hall* at University College, thanks to P and C. It was cheap and cheerful. Then we wanted to go to Park End as it was their Christmas Party but didn't manage to get in. So we went to Bar Risa instead..

Tuesday, November 29, 2005

Define "friends with benefits.."

Define: interdependence
the close relationships of people aimed at satisfying needs for affection, development, and resources to achieve relational integrity.

Define: independent
not dependent on or conditioned by or relative to anything else

Spending time to get to know someone better so you can decide how good a friend they are or can be must be too much for some people. Some people are born social creatures, the need to interact with another human being, whether platonic or not, comes so naturally to them they do not need to think about it. Some people are asocial, the need for interaction is not great and therefore they do not see what the fuss is all about.

Define: friends with benefit..
I'm open for suggestions...

Monday, November 28, 2005

Sunday, November 27, 2005

Busy bee...

My social life has shot up off late. It's nice to meet up with friends and catch up with them. Mary was here last weekend and she blogged it.

Then on Monday, I met up with Sarah for lunch. It's nice that she's working in Oxford and we get to catch up every so often. Too bad she won't be around for much more. I had an easy day on Tuesday and on Wednesday it was quite random. I woke up and decided to watch the new Harry Potter movie in the afternoon and had to rush at work. I didn't expect any work but lo and behold, the new microscope room was ready! It's all set up and working now so time to get my nose back to the grindstone. :)

I watched the movie with Jo and she had a good time. It was nice to catch up with her. I keep promising a dinner party and it will happen soon when I have time to breathe! Later in the evening, went for drinks with PC who's finally leaving Oxford. Finishing his DPhil and now moving on to greater things in life. Or so we hope.

Thursday was a magical evening. JM's 34th birthday. I haven't even had time to download the pictures yet but will post one soon. We surprised him with a cake from Maison Blanc (oh, it was so divine!). Lots of food, lots of drinks (we went through 2 bottles of sparkling wine, a bottle of red and a bottle of Hungarian dessert wine that I had bought ages ago). It was so nice. I miss living in the old house a lot.

Friday...ah. The weekend. I started it off by not planning on doing very much but I got invited very kindly by one of the trustees of the European Union Baroque Orchestra for their performance in Oxford. So I toddled off for free champagne and canapes, followed by an astounding performance in baroque music. Thanks! Cutting it close to ten, I headed over to Holywell for a few more drinks with PC who is now actually gone. Oxford won't be the same again! Was supposed to meet Annie but didn't quite make it. I'm sorry babes!

Last night was JJ's birthday party in Castle Mill. C had a few friends over so we had dinner first. He cooks well! We had pasta to start then a turkey steak with salad and thankfully, there was no dessert. But we made it to the party and had peanut butter cookies,baked with my recipe. And of course, promises for another dinner party (how does my life always revolve around food?). Then we managed to extricate ourselves and made our way to The Bridge. There was queue and £8 to get in. But we did it and enjoyed ourselves. Dancing away to the wonderful new drinking laws which allowed us one extra hour until 3am. It was amusing in the queue as the bouncers didn't allow any groups without a female to be let into the premises. I suppose that would reduce the fights in the club? Althought it made me feel important as the boys wouldn't have been let in without me?

Got home late and slept late. Now I have managed to waste the whole Sunday afternoon but oh, it feels good. Time to get ready to go to church and then to the lab.

Oh, and prepare myself for the week ahead!

Saturday, November 26, 2005

Controversy and objectivity

A piece on the front page of BBC's online news caught my eye. Malaysia is once again in the public eye, and not in the best possible light. Less stern reporting found on The Star, a Malaysian daily. And much debate and discussion on Malaysiakini an alternative Malaysian news website. Wide coverage also posted on another Malaysian blogger, Jeff Ooi.

And much more stories can be found by doing a simple Google News search.

The one who aired it to national and international media Teresa Kok A piece from Malaysiakini on SUARAM a Malaysian human rights organisation.

Basically, if you've not clicked on any of the links, the wonders of modern technology shows a grainy video of a fair-skinned woman naked after a strip search and forced to do squats while holding on to her ears. She is being watched by an officer who is wearing a head-scarf (tudung).

The Inspector General of Police has commented that it is normal for those who are detained to be asked to strip and do ear squats for drug offences. Let's not even get started on the human rights issues here, for there are many.

More comments later.

Tuesday, November 22, 2005

The game's afoot!

Squealing with delight,
Unearthing the new joy
It was pleasing to the eye.
She held it up to the light
and scrutinised it with intensity.
She picked it up to smell
and touch the new corners
her fingers had never felt before

This was something special,
She felt that it had to be
Disappointment had already
crushed their vines,
around her heart,
hardened it like a rock.

As before, time passes
Flaws revealed
Cracks become gulfs
Feelings dissipate

The new toy is discarded
To the bottom.

-aL-
(yes, it's mine)

Friday, November 18, 2005

The weekend has landed!

It's been an old busy week. I really enjoy being busy, although I would have enjoyed it more if I actually did some proper work. I went to A&A's flat on Tuesday evening and enjoyed catching up with them and making plans for more dinners! We love food, making and sharing.

Chad came over to my flat on Wednesday and we drank. I polished off a whole bottle of wine, which isn't so good but it was funny. Surreal night. As Chad left, my housemate knocked on my dood and we chatted for over half an hour. He's a great guy. All around nice guy.

I woke up at 6am the next morning and blitzed my room! It's nice to have an organised room again, it was getting to the point where it was annoying me. I go through this every so often, it gets to a point where I can't take it anymore and I blitz. Wanted to go to work in the morning but met up with Jo and ended up talking until I went to meet S for lunch.

Although the one good thing is that I managed to do some work today, but the results were disappointing. I need to be better at it. I blame the new lab jinx as to why my results are not that great.

Chad cooked dinner for me tonight (which was very very nice of him) and then went out with his housemates to the pub. I was tired so I came home to crash and burn. Mary gets here tomorrow! And we'll be spending a whole day together without anyone else. YAY!

S is DJing tomorrow at the bop so we might pop into that as well, since he got me on the guest list so I wouldn't have to pay. I hope he remembers. Life and relationships are too complicated. Or maybe we choose to make it complicated so that our lives don't seem that overly boring, when in fact it's all simple and good.

Who knows? My warm bed is calling me. It is literally FREEZING out there.

Wednesday, November 16, 2005

Faith and hope

I went to College Mass on Monday. The sermon involved a bit of finding out your vocation in life. To think about why you're at university and to make the most of it. The readings were heading in that direction anyways so I suppose he made the best of it.

I didn't spend that much time thinking about it.

But as I spent yet another day doing the same routine, I felt an overwhelming sense of ennui. I don't deal with disappointment well and today made me miss J even more. He always knew how to listen and say the right things to make me feel better. I was never happier in my life than when I was with him.

I once read somewhere that unhappiness is caused by the amount of choice that we have now. I think that it might be true. Everyone is always chasing after the perfect one and because the world has shrunk so much, everyone thinks it's possible.

But enough of this crap. I am going to have some food, crack open a bottle of wine and watch some tv.

Maybe I'll be more coherent later. My brain feels like such an addled mess.

Tuesday, November 15, 2005

There's this boy...

who took me out to dinner last night. He's quite nice.

I think he's quite likeable too but then again, I would have to say it because he reads my blog. At least he tells me he reads this blog.

All highly confusing.

I will now go and do some proper work, like submitting an abstract so I can go to Houston in March for free.

Sunday, November 13, 2005

Leaving blues

The weekend has been a washout. I needed to do some work desperately, finish writing the abstract for the conference and organise my work for the next few weeks.

Friday was a non-day because I got in at 5am and was asleep by 8pm. Saturday was weird, I was waiting for Mark to finish his law careers fair and meet up for drinks, then there was JM for coffee since I hadn't spoken to him in a while. And of course, as you do on a weekend, meeting S for drinks at Duke happy hour.

Mark didn't finish till 3, so I was hanging around town for a while. He bumped into Annie and Ketan on the way to meet me and we ended up at KA for a pint. By 4-ish I was starting to feel quite tired, guess jet lag does sort of happen to me. When we were done, it was too late to meet JM for coffee so went to the Duke earlier to meet S. As I was early he wasn't there yet so I got in some drinks.

And just to prove a point, he still owes me 4 drinks! :-)

Now, it's 2pm on a Sunday. All I've achieved was that I had breakfast with S in G and D's as well as walking around some shops. He's a nice guy. He amuses me but I'm not sure what is happening there.

We have a dinner party tonight. My housemate is back from Paris and there are goodies to be shared by cooking. I think there's a rabbit involved. (Apologies to all vegetarian peoples.) Of course, some of my Malaysian stuff will be out on show as well. I can't believe he's leaving Oxford for good in a couple of days.

CSI Season 5 is amazing! I can't stop watching it.

Friday, November 11, 2005

Cat city tales

Ahh...

Back in Oxford. It got dark at 5pm and started raining. I knew there was a reason for coming back to this country.

It was fun being at home, even though it's monsoon season. So it rained every afternoon or evening making it not so hot. But I braved through the tropical weather by eating lots of gorgeous food that you can't get anywhere in the world except in Kuching. For those who don't know, I'm from Kuching.

Mm...food... I can't even begin to describe it, so I won't really try.

Dad's birthday was hectic. I got back and Joyce was already home. We had the whole family together again. It's nice. The whole weekend was sheer and utter madness but completely fun! We have lots of relatives and we eat everytime we see each other.

Most people left on Sunday so I had a few days with my sister and parents. Relaxed a bit too much but hey, that's what going home is all about. Had a hair cut so I now look like this, on a good day, when I can be bothered to do my hair.


Left Malaysia last night, got here this morning and have been awake for way way too long. Am super sleepy. Think I will eat some dinner, watch some CSI and sleep. I like sleep...Will post more meaningful thoughts some other time.

Oh, I did get Joyce (my younger sister) to help me buy some RAM so the love of my life (as there is no other) the Powerbook has now got a sexy 1.5GB of RAM.

Enough random thoughts for now. Later people...

Wednesday, November 09, 2005

How time flies..

I flew home November 1 and reached Kuching, November 2. It's weird. 12 hours across space and time. (or just 8 time zones...)

First time that I'm in Malaysia for a couple of years and I didn't meet up with J. It's weird. It feels wrong but I know it's the right thing to be doing.

The trip is almost over now. I am going to spend the last night catching up with some friends and then I'm back off to Oxford tomorrow. I wish it hadn't gone by so quick. There's more people to see, more stuff to do and much much more food to eat. I think my parents have more acceptance of me as a grown up now although most of the time it's still hard to behave like one. Things change so quickly, yet some things don't change at all.

More updates when I'm high on coffee and trying to stay awake past the jet lag.

Coming soon tomorrow!

Sunday, October 30, 2005

Overachievers

Overachievers annoy me. I just worked this out. I've always had this bedgrudging feeling towards them and I feel a slight animosity towards them. It's not the ones who are at the top of their fields, I mean, how many top ranking scientists, historians, philosophers and so forth that are the best in their field but lack either social graces or table manners?

No, the kind of overachievers that annoy me are the ones who are really nice, really good-looking, have perfect manners and are good at everything they put their hand at doing. And you can't even really gossip or have a good old catty chat about them because they are so nice to everyone. Really, how can someone be such perfection around here? They must have some flaws but if they do, they are so well hidden that I'm hard-pressed to find them. And trust me, I would be looking for them.

In a way, I envy them because I would like to be like that. Who wouldn't? I mean, if you could be good at anything and everything that you wanted, wouldn't you want it to be so?

But then again, I feel sad for them. Human life is all about enjoying your flaws. You might not believe me but don't you feel better about yourself when you know that you are better than someone else at something? It doesn't matter what it is, just something. You like commiserating with others, whether with a cup of hot chocolate, or a really lip-smackingly gorgeous glass of wine, or two or three. But I digress. We enjoy the company that misery provides and it makes us have a common bond because it doesn't matter that we're not good at, we have it in common.

There was a point to this somewhere but I've lost my train of thought now so it's all over.

News on me.

Went to 2 parties this weekend, was supposed to be three but am so exhausted that have decided that two is enough.That and the fact that I slept away most of Saturday should be an indication to slow down and not do anything but nevermind. St Cross Halloween bop on Friday which I didn't really want to go but Annie was working and I thought it would be fun to see what the new students were like. It wasn't all as much fun but it could be due to the fact that I didn't really know anyone and I wasn't in the mood for socialising. Tonight, went for dinner at JM's new place. His place is gorgeous. The rooms are massive and we had dinner in a proper dining room. It's a converted mansion so very nice. Just a bit far out from town center and I suppose the rooms would be a bit cold as the house was so old and would be hard to heat.

Tried to get as much done as possible for the abstract so I can go to the big fly meeting, and it seems to be going ok except just have to get the references downloaded and the pictures pulled off the other computer. Not quite sure what to do about that because I don't really need to include the pics but if I am going to do the statistical analysis I should look at all the pics again. I should just pull it into my laptop then do the backups. Sigh, I hate going away. Especially when I have things to do. But at least it should be nice to go home and see family and EAT. I cannot wait to be eating all the foods again..mmmmm...

And now to end my procrastination for the evening, I might go and do what I planned and finish all the work before tomorrow. Still need to pack and think of a present for dad but how hard can it be? Yeah, right.

Wednesday, October 26, 2005

Happy things!

So, the last post was a tad violent.

Things to be happy about for this week include the fact that I've received 2 more books for my birthday, thanks to Katey and Adam. They are getting married 19 March 2006!

But yes, back to me. I received Nigel Slater's Real Cooking and The Time Traveler's Wife by Audrey Niffenegger.

Yesterday my housemate concluded his DPhil. He had a 2-hour viva and was told that he passed. Fabulous! We (me, him and other housemate) celebrated at the unit by drinking champagne and other sparklies. Then moved on to the Turf for a pint, then Fishers for seafood! That was an amazing night. Conversation was great because we did not talk about work, mumbled crap and discussed other pleasantries.

My dad's 60th birthday is coming up soon and I will be going home for that, although I have no idea what to get him for a present (suggestions welcome).But I thank God that he's had a really good life and three daughters who are all going to fly home for it.

I have fantastic friends who give me virtual hugs and keep me company when I'm bored at work, you girls know who you are!

So, this is a nice pleasant post. I'm in a happy complacent place in time.

And this bit of news from Malaysia put a smile on my face. Yes, it's ridiculous but it happens all the time where I come from.

Monday, October 24, 2005

Complex relationships

Honestly, boys are such complex creatures. I work in a lab of mostly boys and really, that should make the whole atmosphere all nice and relaxed right? Boys are less fussed about things and having spent far too many years in an all-female convent girls school, I was convinced that it would be fine. But no, oh no, the boys in my lab have a clique, an honest to God clique. How much more fuckwittage can you get from that?

Can you tell that I'm on a roll for a rant? It wouldn't be so bad really, if it wasn't for the actions of some of them that influence the rest. I mean, I spend 90% of my time in the dark all by myself out of their way, you would think that for the 10% of the time, I would be able to communicate sensibly with the other human beings? No. Exx-cu-se me, how rude. It's fine for them to joke around and make silly comments but when I try to join in, ice-queen central. Melodramatic females or what?

I've decided that maybe I should turn into a creature of the night, it would be far more interesting than attempting to communicate with half-evolved apes who need to have tribal gatherings and secret grunts.

Fuckwittage.

Sunday, October 23, 2005

Child proof caps

who the hell invented them? They are a grand idea but not when you're ill and you need to be doped up. sigh. give me my paracetamol, antihistamine, anti-everything mix already. Let me be off to la-la-land.

God, I am such a drama queen for a small cold.

Pants

I have caught a cold and the last post didn't get published because blogger went all blotto on me. (hrms, that's quite catchy..)

Anyways, busy busy busy. Work hectic, and have been a moody cow at work just because I am female and therefore I can. But some things have been upsetting me lately mainly because I am such a sensitive sort of gal, yeah right.

That was really weird and didn't make much sense. Never mind.

Mary's birthday was on Friday, we went out for drinks in Reading and I bought her a spa treat day, which is very exciting. And as it's for two people, I get to go with her! yay!

Mark graduated yesterday and had all the attendant stresses of looking after your family in a strange place. He had his whole family (literally!) and it seemed like they were having a good time. It's strange to see him out of context. But he's promised to come back down to Oxford for a night out. It'd be good to see him again. I miss talking to him. In such a short time, we've become such good friends. He's a really cool guy.

I am now going to crawl back into bed, watch lots of csi and medicate. *sniffle*

and thanks to kath, one of the nicest people i know! she sent me reese's peanut butter cups because i told her ages ago how much i loved them. Seriously, one of the best birthday presents I got, and who knew you could drag a birthday out this long?

Sunday, October 16, 2005

Bowling for Soup

was sold out when I got there. I refused to pay £30 to touts so came home instead. I think Seb was upset I didn't get to go but it's my fault for not looking it up. Ho hum. Wa-hey, such is life.

I came back and got sentimental, partly due to the fact that I met one of my high school friends today, Valerie. She's been working in Wolverhampton for almost two years now and I just randomly met her the other day in China Town London. Remember the thing about six degrees of seperation? It must be true in this world.

Back to the point, of which I may have one, I logged back on to Friendster, which is a friend network website and started looking up old high school mates. Fond memories, but why have I never kept in touch with them? So many are married and are procreating. I wonder now about the eternal question, what happens when I go home? It never worries me when I visit my family because I am there for a purpose, something for me to look forward to. But if I move back, what will happen to me?

Too much of my life has been spent here in England. I worked out it will be my sixth year living here soon. I think it may be time to leave but will I have the courage when the time comes?

I could just run away again, to somewhere else. Someone said the Caribbean or West Indies were cheap....

I have to stop drinking

to try and escape the fugue in my life. I think a stable person to keep me in hold with reality because nothing is what I perceive it to be.

Why do I keep running away from what is supposed to be my real life?

DAMN

Wednesday, October 12, 2005

What I really want for Christmas

is a new Video Ipod. sigh. Why do these things cost so much?
But they look so good...
And they match my Powerbook...

Anyone wants to spring one for me?
No?

Failing that, I'll just be heading off to watch Bowling for Soup on Sunday.

Tuesday, October 11, 2005

New piercing




So, I got a new piercing today. I had been thinking about it for a long time but never actually went and got it done. Felt bored and didn't have a nice present for myself, coupled with a dozen other excuses (most involving men, ugh), so ta-dah!

Sunday, October 09, 2005

The morning after



my birthday. How exciting.

A whole whirlwind weekend of drinking, dancing and celebrating with friends. The lengths to which my friends go to amaze me. Mary drove up from Reading for a few hours of hanging out with me even though I didn't spend that much time with her. Adam drove Sarah up from London. They spent 45 minutes at my party when it took them an hour to drive up. Adam and Kathryn arrived drunk and left more sober to catch the Oxford Tube back home to London. Jean-Marie cycled 20 minutes in the rain and brought drink, present and food!

"Birthdays are celebrations of the people God has surrounded us with" and I'm blessed that I have so many friends that take time out of their busy lives and remember me for one day.

Now I am going back to lie down because my head hurts.

Friday, October 07, 2005

More to life

Just heard this played. You might know the song,Stacie Orrico's More to Life (There's gotta be)
Chorus:
There's gotta be more to life
than chasing out every temporary high to satisfy me
'Cause the more that I
trippin' up thinkin' there must be more to life
Well, there's life, but I'm sure
There's gotta be more

So, what else is there in life?

Can you tell that I hate birthdays? Depressing lil' days


Thursday, October 06, 2005

Two more days

Until it's my birthday. I don't even know why I make such a fuss of about it. I don't actually like celebrating my birthday, until I get to the day and then I'll enjoy it.

Been baking up a storm though, I have decided that my friends (those who do make it!) will not be hungry. There's going to be plenty of food.

Last but not least (oh no, definately not the least) are presents. I'm happy with most of the stuff that I have although what I would quite like, after a long protracted conversation with my housemate is a book. Not just any book, but one about cooking and science on why food tastes like it does. McGee on Food and Cooking: An Encyclopedia of Kitchen Science, History and Culture

Now, that's my kind of book.




Sunday, October 02, 2005

Conviction and doubt


Saw this when I was at the Jewish Museum in Budapest. All emphasis in text are mine the rest are copyrighted of the author.

Conviction and doubt by Peter Lajtai Langer

As one of the most fundamental human needs, religion is highly suitable as a pretext for both comprehensive isolation and for an open kind of progress determined by ability and diligence. In-built formulas help to make everything liveable and explainable - the most shocking dramatic moments, and even pain - just like in any other great intellectual, ideological or consumer value-system. In the intellectual sense - not from a historical perspective - Western-style religious observance has produced two significant experiences. On the one hand, the ideology of metaphysical and rational concepts, rich in contradictions, has developed and strengthened, as has its practise of regulating and guiding everyday life with demands, sanctions, rewards and punishments - the cultural traidtion of ethics and morality, that is.
On the other hand, religions taken as a whole have brough the realization that despite their competitive, combative and exclusionary natire, there are in fact deep and fundamental similarities between these great explanatory systems.
It is striking how, despite their differing sources, texts on man and his environment bring man closer to his neighbour.

The noble service of faith then turned into the blinkered faith of the servants. Slightly different versions of texts and discrepancies hardly affecting the essense of things became overblown, sometimes just out of simplicity and stupidity, sometimes out of selfishness, favouritism and irresponsibility, sometimes with openly base and murderous intent. Why do we eternally interpret the pleasant and spectacular richness of formal differences with antagonistic feelings and prejudices inflamed by dilettantes?

History initially tricked those that formed it without this being noticed; later it did so openly. The hostile environment selected and isolated a smaller group, the ensuing independent development of which gave birth to the social model of eternal dissimilarity. Then, out of an instinctive mutual contempt, the serf became bourgeois, the emancipated were blocked in their attempts to assimilate, and those exploited by capitalism became the convition serial killers of their neighbours. On the way, we leaned of God that he lives even further away that we thought, that faith is dangerous, that religion is a profession, that is it good if the anointed are ordinary people. And that there are such things as human greatness, goodness, self-sacrifice and setting a good example.

A sweeping survey of history does not show the realization of religious similarity to have been a decisive part of Western civilisation. For the big groups, monotheism has not generated any comfort or any delight in similarities but rather hatrad, radical sectarian identity and the variously petty or uninspired instinct of seclusion. In doing so it leaves behind the traditional curse of inextricability of historical connections, and the trap of settling the score with one's current and cumulative responsibilites. We will never be able to fully understand why people have become the torsos they have become.

We have inherited the tangled sensation of attachment to tradition. This religious worldview was substantively impoverished by the strengthening of scholarly thinking brought by the Englightment. Its loss of credibility made religion more depenedent on appearances and extreme in emotions. The contraction of its own domain was compensated by an incrase in its influence over politics. Secrets and miracles made space for pragmatic avarice and petty attention to detail.


This is how we came to arrive at the age of the free decision between acceptance and/or refusal. In the case of the former, we assume that teaching is eternal and immovable, that its content is the only proclaimed truth, that this is the sunny side of life, that the devout believe in the only authentic human norm, and that their actions reflect this and only this. In the case of refusal, on the other hand, we assume that the teaching is imperfect, that its content is full of speculations and is in part spurious, that the consequences drawn are historically objectionable, and that the bias expressed in it would be amusing were it not outright life-threatening. But neither assumption is true in its fullness. In this sense, it the taste of our culture today to clarify the religious tradition - as one of the deepest human instincts, later as a social institution burdened by history, then as the rethinking and re-evaluation of an accepted or rejected set of bourgeois values.

Long decades meandering through countries, ethnicities and cultures, from one political, religious and consumer system to another, from a noticeably ideological environment into an even more noticeably ideological one: these accumated experiences demand expression. All the more so because, as time passes, I am increasingly given to think that fundamental questions closely affecting our civilisation have not been expressed. It is as if all those with an interest have their paths blocked, like a barrier, by a homogenous, consensual unity. The reason for this is perhaps a lack of knowledge of history and the subject, perhaps a mutual fear and lack of trust, perhaps the extent and weight of, and exaggerated respect for, taboos. My goal is to express the key fundamental question in my own way, with the hellp of the assets of visual art, and, as far as my knowledge and talent allows, to contribute to the discovery of possible answers.

No one can make a global rejection of Western culture built on monotheistic religious premises without being accuseds of naivety. For this reason it is necessary to reach back to the early stages of the development of norms, to the beginning, in the hope that new materials and technologies used for expression can organise knowledge so important for understanding in an innovative fashion. Without this, the useless misunderstandings between one person and another will grow rather than decrease.

In an age of changing paradigms, we expect an artist to present the material world brought into focus in a way that is thematically clear, faithful to its subject, and that demands thoroughness, precision and abundance. Only considered thoughts and the authenticity and richness of detail can produce values that survive the test of time, in contrast to simplification that bears no message, to cheap, spectacular but imprecise speculation, and to the inflexible preservation of empty sylistic tricks.

It is in this sense that symbols of Judaism find a place in my works. In redrafting them, I have a number of objectives. Firstly, I wish to show a culture considered to be universal can capably be depicted by use of any material world judged to be particular. This is how the treasures of Judaism - the tallith, tefillin, prayer book, menora, shofar, kiddush cap, and others - will become suitable for the expression of post-modern concepts. This is how I wish to show that being different, if not being the same, does mean being similar.

I would also like to involve the material environment of Jewish cultures in the formal language of universal fine art. With this I wish to express the capacity of the modern nation-based but multicultural society to deal with unknown connections on the basis of prognoses of a known communication model. Even if we are not acquainted with these religious objects and their use- their proportions, colour, location, level of complexity, relation to their environment, whether they are found together or seperately, whether they fit together snugly or not - these are all codes and patterns that we are familiar with from our own environment we know so well. So even if we do not know the emotional and atmospheric world of the objects in question, we can nevertheless use them to model the connections in the world we do know. And this is the great lesson of the post-modern multicultural age.

Finally I do not believe that my biographical details should play a role in the evaluation of the pictures, but neither do I think that the path of one's life has nothing do with the way themes are selected and presented. It is not the particular way a life happens to develop that matters, much rather the challenge of the presentation of eternal problems, whether intentional or not. It is to this goal, to this challenge that we are accountable, and it is only in the light of this that the process of artistic creation, as an attempt to find solutions, can gain value and authenticity. This is what I see as the rule of thumb for judging my career.

Before I turn 26...

I'm officially going to be in my late-20s this Saturday. It's worrying. Only because I have nothing to worry about. I am not married (or even in a relationship), don't own anything in the world that can't be moved in a ship/plane or given away to another owner and have nothing much to show for my 26 years of existance in this world. So, if I'm finished off before this Saturday, what would people have to say about me?

That is quite worrying.

Tuesday, September 27, 2005

I'm published!!

WOO HOO...

I've got my first published journal article. It's taken a long time but it's done!

Monday, September 26, 2005

Budapest!

After 8 days in Tirana, I flew back to Budapest to spend a few days there. I was travelling alone, the best way. It's nice to get lost in a city and have no responsibility.

Unfortunately for me, it was raining when I arrived and that depressed me to no end. When I left Tirana, it was hot! But there's nothing I can do about the weather so settled down and hoped that it would stop raining. But it was still raining the next day. Pants. Having spent all this money, I was determined there should be value for money so went around anyways. Unlike Tirana however, there will be less amusing anecdotes and more beautiful buildings in a fairy-tale city by the Danube.

A random art installation on my walk, shoes pointing towards the Danube like everyone had just jumped into the river.

St Stephen's Basilica, where the preserved right hand of St Stephen is still displayed.


Detail of the basilica wall, it's pretty amazing.
Just a random building in Budapest, how nice it is to live in a city surrounded by so many pretty buildings!

Me outside the opera house with one of the lions that guard it. Took a tour of the Opera House but couldn't take pictures inside.

One of the trams of Budapest.Shame I couldn't find an excuse to ride one while I was there, I walked or took the metro (subway, underground).

An aquaduct, like ones in Rome!
My fairy-tale impression of Buda Castle. All the castles in Budapest have been converted to museums.
Inside the parliment, where I took a tour. It's beautiful, I could spend time describing it all but you would find better expressions on the Internet or just by reading a guide book.
My cheesy tourist pic in front of the Parliment buildings on the other side of the river. *heh* *heh* *heh*

Now, time for some exercise. Tilt your head and you can see one part of Fisherman's Bastion, which is on top of a hill. I was very tired after climbing all the way up there.

A postbox! It's different from what I had seen before and it's something unusual since I didn't see any the whole time in Tirana.
Some of the buildings on Castle Hill, it's a nice place to wander around. In fact, most of Budapest is nice for wandering around, having lazy meals and sitting down having coffees.
In the labyrinths on Castle Hill, this is in the prehistoric cave bit.
This shouldn't have justified space in my blog if it weren't for the fact that wine was coming of out the spout instead of water. Nectar of the gods and all that.

Buda Castle at night.The Dohany Jewish Synagogue, it's features are Moorish-influenced and when I first got there, I thought it was a mosque. I like it. It's different.
The Tree of Life at the back of the synagogue. One in the day and the other at night. The tree is made of metal and each leaf has the name of a Budapest Jew who perished during the Holocaust. They also have a Jewish museum adjoining it and while I was there, there was an exhibition called Conviction and Doubt, which I thoroughly enjoyed, that's a seperate post!
The elevator at the place where I stayed. Open frame, wooden doors, but it still works. Good old Soviet engineering....*fingers crossed*
Heroes Square, the archangel Gabriel stands at the top of the pillar, the seven Magyar tribes surrounding it.
Statue of the Annonymous. It's dark but not depressing to have this figure shrouded in a cloak and hood.

Vajdahunyad Castle in the City Park, it's now the Hungarian Agricultural Museum, which didn't interest me enough to visit inside.
St Gellert's Hill. Apparently this was the spot where they put St Gellert into a barrel and rolled him down the hill. By this point in time, I was slightly done with monuments and memorial type things...

The Freedom Monument, a statue of a woman holding a palm leaf in victory. The Soviets put it there and the Hungarians erased the Cyrillic of the base when they were kicked out, to remember the prosperity of the Hungarian peoples. Behind this monument is the Citadel which is the fort . They had a pretty good museum in there, a converted underground bunker to depict the tumultumous times in Hungary from just before WWII to the Soviet occupation.

The City viewed through the trees on Gellert Hill. It's peaceful and nice to know that the city can be so close yet far away enough.Buda on the left and Pest on the right.


And basically, this is the reason why I went to Budapest, I just wanted to see a city that was united and seperated by the Danube. Buda and Pest. :-)